We are all raised to want a fairy tale. Grow up, fall in love, get married, have children, and grow old together. What do we do if one of these fairy tale steps doesn't happen?
I will be the first to tell you, life doesn't always go as you planned. I remember dreaming of a wonderful life growing up. I was a hopeless romantic. I still am in so many ways. I really love sappy love movies where everyone lives happily ever after. Unfortunatly, life has taught me that the fairy tale is just that, a tale. Something that I imagine I wanted.
I have come to realize through infertility and so many other trials in my life, that life isn't a fairy tale. It isn't full of love and princes, or good always overcoming evil. I think all of us have this realization as we become adults. We look back and say, "I wish I could do back to my childhood."
I don't have any children. This in no way was a part of my dream. I remember even saying that my worst fear would be to never bear children. Well, now I am living that fear. My story isn't uncommon. Many of us have lives that don't fit our childhood dreams.
About a year ago I learned a great lesson about dreams. When life doesn't go the way you expected, change your dream. There are so many things to be grateful for. So many ways to live a righteous, happy, and fulfilling life. It is all about your perception. Mine doesn't have to be like Cinderella's to be a fairy tale. Just having my husband is fairy tale enough for me. I still want to have children but I am living my dream, my life is full of love and family already. I wish I would have realized it sooner.
Everyone's tale will be different. All can have happy endings. We just have to look at them from a different perspective. Look at them and see your very own personal fairy tale.
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