Let's talk about the joys of being a mom today. Thanks to the wealth of ideas on the Internet the expectations of a mother have become a little... unrealistic. We feel pressure to:
cook scrumptious meals using all the latest healthy ingredients; create edible creature snacks for the kids and fancy festive treats for the neighbors.
maintain a clean and organized home, decorated with homemade crafts for every season.
rear our children with our sweet peaceful voices and artsy activities..... AND SO ON
Yes, I have participated in this latest practically-perfect-mom trend, until I remembered what my real purpose as a mother and wife is. The most important task I have is to teach, nurture, and love my children. Everything else is secondary. Even the cleaning.
In Today's Family: The Eternal Role of Mothers Elder Ballard says, “What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply and, in keeping with the devotion she has for God and her husband, prioritizes them above all else.”
Above dirty dishes, and homemade soap?
I think so.
Don't get me wrong, it is important to live in a clean home and participate in wholesome activities, just not as important as spending time with our children. Certainly most days have time for a little of everything, but let there be some days where the lessons learned and memories made take up more time. Nothing terrible is going to happen if you read a book with your kids instead of mopping the floor.
So please, don't be embarrassed if the house is a little askew. And do not feel sub par when you look at other moms who seem capable of doing everything. Be reassured in knowing that your children feel loved and valued, and when they are all grown they will fondly remember the love we gave them and the lessons we taught them. Motherhood is such a divine calling. I am grateful to be a mother, and I know that a mothers job is so very important.
- - - - - - - - - - - - - Maria is a quirky Canadian, optimistic mother of two, and convert to the church. She lives in the U.S. with her family, and enjoys writing uplifting messages at her blog Focused on the Positive.